Pick Up Artist is NOT the Way
Are you ever overwhelmed by the amount of pick up lines there are? How much you are supposed to memorize? Stressing out over what line to use and what phase to go into? No need to get your balls in a bunch over it. We’ve all been there
If you are really serious about getting your social and romantic life together then NO SITE is gonna fix you. Let me say that again. NO SITE WILL FIX YOU. Ultimately its up to you to nut up, or shut up. You alone will have to push through that tense,stiff feeling in your head when its time to approach a flavorful mamacita. * mamacitia = ghetto talk for “attractive female”
The more me and my comrads drifted away from the ways of the community, the more success I found with girls. I had less on my mind and found that my body language had changed for the better. You could argue that all i had learned in the community was finally meshing. But you can’t deny, the more I took myself out of this “community hierarchy” the more I wasn’t held back.
Think about it! when you first were at the near start of the pick up scene. how any times did you see guys NOT follow pick up rules and succeed anyway? Probably alot. But you had o rationalize their sucess away.
Don’t let gurus trick you into thinking this has to be hard. It all comes down to being comfortable in your own skin, and that can only be acquired through experience.
So what can I do about this?
Most guys start out scared to death of approaching a girl. I started out horrified at my friends pushing me into large groups of people. The only way to really eliminate fear is to take it in SMALL STEPS.
Pick Up Lines Won’t Solve Everything.
What is an Approach?
What is an approach?
Scenario: You are on a college campus. You see a group of girls laugh and walk into the cafeteria. One of which makes you tingly in your noodle canon. You have that tiny boost of adrenaline. Every impulse tells you to go talk to the group. How do you go about it?
An Approach is when you go up to a complete stranger and get their attention. That’s it! There are many different kinds of approaches. You could ask a question, you could be direct about your intentions, or you could just happen to stumble onto talking to a stranger. The more natural way is to just have fun and approach someone because it’s part of who you are.
That’s what everyone should be striving for. Memorizing lines is just too artificial and tacted on. The problem is, that not all guys start off being able to approach naturally. We have to build up to it. Every one has a different process. This is something people struggle with for months, or even years!
I’m going to show you that it can take as little as 6 weeks. You are striving to go up to the hot girl in the park, college, bar, street, anywhere. Once you condition yourself to pull the trigger, you will improve by leaps and bounds!
You will approach confidently and naturally. Romantic pick up lines wthout good personal comfort in your body language wont get you anywhere.
Why Approach at All?
Why Approach?
You ever felt like you missed an opportunity? That sour taste of regret in your mind as you just let an attractive girl walk away.
To someone who isn’t very social, there are alot of ways to get yourself used to it. One way to go about it is to do massivly scary approaches. This will shock your system into force ably changing. This can work, But VERY FEW people ever finish programs like that.
So i say, small steps works better to build things up.
When it comes down to it, we all want better quality women in our life. There are dozens of missed opportunities everyday you go out. Especially when you have the mentality of being a pick up artist.
Im not just talking about girls here. I mean talking to people of any gender. Just conversing with a stranger and making friends.
The ability to approach is the power to control your life and who you bring into it.
Think about it, you take a vacation. You don’t know a sinlge person in sight. What will you do? You are gonna put the big boy underpants on and talk to strangers,duh.
All this stuff is good for anxiety. With less anxiety, you can go into any conversation naturally, with no lines or gimmicks. When you are truly comfortable going up to a stranger, you will eventually not need lines! You don’t need to be a pick up artist, but it helps to have tools.
Opening Lines
This is just a starter kit.
I’m not saying these are the top pick up lines, but they really have worked for me for years and continue to do so. I’m only going to give you one line for each little situation. I suggest you come up with your own. You don’t want to use other people’s lines, cause thats just lame sauce.
Note: Make sure to always smile when approaching anyone. People mirror back emotions that you show them.
There are different kinds of openers: Direct, Indirect, Spontaneous, Shockers, etc.
This is just broad strokes to get your mind moving. Again, think up your own and write them down. Then TRY THEM! Because you never know if they work unless you try them.
Location: Anywhere Situation: Walking alongside someone in the same direction.
Are you trying to race me?
Location: College Campus Situation: Girl Sitting Alone
I’m waiting for my friend to get out of class, what class are you in?
Location: College Campus Situation: More then one girl sitting alone
Are you guys exchange students? I dunno, you had that ethnic “vibe”
Location: Bar Situation: Girl on her own, or at the bar (rare, probably waiting for a friend)
You looked like you needed some attention over here.
Location:Bar Situation: More than one girl
Are you guys old enough to be in here?
These are just BROAD starters that have worked for me and guys I know. The point is just to engage and start a conversation.
Your openings don’t have to be top pick up lines. Its mostly in your eye contact and posture. There is a library of opening lines all over the net. “Hi” CAN work.
Tools that Work
Tools
Once you are in conversation, what will you talk about? These aren’t really pick up lines per sey. They are more general routes of conversation.
Reading the Girl
After you’ve been out a few times, you’ll come to the realization that girls are more similair then they are different. This applies to all people in general. You’ll run into the same types of girls in different places. You can opt to cold read a girl. Cold reading is basically when you make an observation about a girl that can apply to 80 percent of the population.
This can hit the target right on the nose, in which the girl will be aw stuck and can form a great connection between you two OR it can miss and offend her. She will insinuate that you don’t know her, and continue to lecture that you should not try and judge people so quickly. She will then proceed with foul language. HA!
You need to read her body language then make a easy snap judgment.
Anything from : “You seem bratty, I bet you were always trouble for your parents”
Or “You seem assertive. I think you are the leader of the trio”
Play with this, write your own, and most importantly…USE THEM!
Telling Stories
Telling stories is probably the biggest window into your life a girl can get. She’s going to have a front row seat to what a mini adventure with you would be like. You can tell pretty much any story as long as you yourself find it interesting.
If you are bored while telling the story, then she’s gonna be bored.
A story can be as simple as beginning, climax, then end. Or it can be as short as a little anecdote. You can throw embarrassing situations you’ve had or new developments at work.
Example of short anicdote : I went to a free salsa dancing lesson the other day. It was my frist time in the class, I think I caught on pretty well. The older women there were ALLOVER my ass though.
Playing a Character
Role playing is great, it gets a girl interested and seeing you as a fun guy to hang out with. Even though a fantasy is not real, the emotions that come with it are completely real.
Example: You should come work with me. You can be my secretary. I can totally use someone at work to make me sandwiches and give me backrubs.
MisInterpreting What She says
Misinterpreting everything she says is a fun game that you can play and have a tremendous amount of fun doing. Interpret everything she says about you as her “coming on” to you.
If she says “Wow that smells nice.” (refering to food)
Say something like ” Yeah, thanks, i just put new cologne on”
Controlling the Interaction
Through the conversation, you’ll need to control where the conversations leads.This makes sure you know where everything is. It can bring out the control freak in you, but girls want to be lead. They want a guy who will take charge and let her sit back. This is refreshing and can get you everything you want faster then you realize.
Remember to have Fun! Pick Up lines won’t do everything if anything, if you aren’t having fun.
Week 1 of My Recovery
Week 1
For the first week, you can go anywhere and talk to any person, (male or female). The point of the first week is to get out of your comfort area, and get used to interrupting people’s patterns. You need to learn that is perfectly alright and people won’t destroy you. If you want, you can just say “Hi,” then leave. The point is to just say it! Forget being a pick up artist!
A good way to do this program is to go Monday,Wednesday, Friday, Saturday. It’s four days a week, and can take you as little or as long as you want. After you’ve completed your daily requirement ….celebrate it! Have a beer, or treat yourself to a movie. Do whatever makes you happy. Get used to rewarding yourself for accomplishing your daily goal. My suggestion would be to print this screen and keep it in your pocket for the week.
Day 1 Say hi to 5 strangers. Take as long as you need, but I suggest you do it quickly.
Day2 Say hi to 7 strangers
Day3 Say hi to 7 strangers
Day4 Say Hi to 10 strangers
This shoud be a piece of cake. If it isn’t Well, just keep trying. Make sure to complete this in under a week. This isn’t the road to be a pick up artist. Its the road to be normal and social!
Week 2 of My Recovery
Week 2
This week, just keep the same plan and approach anyone anywhere. Doesn’t matter who it is, as long as they are a stranger. No funny pick up lines. Just general chats.
Day 1 Say hi to(5) strangers
(1) Ask someone how their day was
Day2 Say hi to(5) strangers
(2) Ask someone how their day was
Day3 Say hi to(5) strangers
(3) Ask someone how their day was
Day4 Say Hi to (3) strangers
(1) Have one extended conversation about anything
Week 3 of My Revocery
Week 3
This week do the same. Say hi to any stranger. I’m sure by this time
is alot easier. I’d take this screen and print it out and put it in your
pocket. At this point ,start to realize what works in normal conversation.
Create pick up lines, in a sense.
Day1 Say hi to(5) strangers
(1) Have one small conversation about anything
Day2 Say hi to(3) strangers
(2) Have two small conversations about anything
Day3 Say hi to(3) strangers
(3) Have three small conversations about anything
Day4 Say Hi to (3) strangers
(2) Have one extended conversation about anything
Week 4 of My Recovery
Week 4 will be a bit different. This time, you need to approach people
that you are slightly intimated by. Make at least one person you interact with a gal you are attracted to.
Again, no romantic pick up lines are required.
Day 1 Say Hi to (3) strangers.
(1) Have one extended conversation.
Day2 Say hi to(3) strangers.
(2) Have two small conversations about anything.
Day3 Say hi to(3) strangers.
(2) Have three small conversations about anything.
Day4 Say Hi to (3) strangers.
(4) Have one extended conversations about anything
Everytime its over. The mini celebration begins.
Week 5 of My Recovery
Week 5
So week 5 is going to be very similar to week 4. When going out interacting with people, try to talk to at least one person you are attracted to per day of the program OR go to a place where you are not completely comfortable in (bar,club,etc) No funny pick up lines.
Day 1 Say Hi to (3) strangers.
(2) Have one extended conversation.
Day2 Say hi to(5) strangers.
(2) Have two small conversations about anything.
Day3 Say hi to(5) strangers.
(4) Have extended conversations about anything.
Day4 Say Hi to (5) strangers.
(5) Have five extended conversations about anything..
Celebration begins!